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Immigrants or not, are some nannies treated like cardboard?

Friday, June 15th, 2012

Artist Ramiro Gomez wants to raise awareness of "invisible" domestic workers in his city through handpainted cardboard cutouts. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

The Los Angeles Times recently showcased an enlightening project by a struggling artist and male nanny who is making public art to draw attention to the value of domestic work.

Ramiro Gomez Jr. creates vibrant 5-foot-tall cardboard cutouts of nannies, gardeners, housekeepers, valets and other service workers out of large television boxes he finds behind his local Best Buy.  The free-standing figures are placed in the swankiest, richest neighborhoods in Beverly Hills, Hollywood Hills and other highly desirable real estate markets.

“We see the beautiful homes. The hedges are trimmed, the gardens are perfect, the children are cared for,” Gomez tells the Times. “We’ve come to expect it to be this way. But who maintains all this? Who looks after it? And do we treat the workers with the dignity they deserve? Do we stop and notice them?”

The artist regularly photographs his cardboard creations in action poses at his Happy Hills blog.

Tough To Ignore: Artist Ramiro Gomez is calling for Los Angeles nannies and other domestic help to be treated with dignity. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

It can be heartbreaking for Gomez to watch what happens to his paintings. There are no velvet ropes like at a museum. It’s not uncommon for his sculptures to get trampled, thrown in a nearby trash bin or destroyed by animals or weather. The U.S. Secret Service recently ordered him to remove some gardener figures from the street when President Obama was in the city for a fundraiser.

The cardboard cutouts, which have attracted the attention of local art galleries and curators at UCLA, are obviously silent.

And what they’re not talking about is the open secret that paying undocumented workers (or nannies of any background) under the table is not just a tax evasion problem. It’s a formula for potential mistreatment and neglect.

Nannying is a profession, a career. Not some kind of odd job or series of chores you can find someone to do on Craigslist.

Having a written Nanny/Employer Work Agreement firmly establishes the job responsibilities, expectations and fair compensation/benefits for both sides.  While it must be tempting to avoid the paperwork and take home more money in cash, being paid legally makes sense in the long term.

Having proof of employment is essential for establishing credit and securing loans for cars, homes and more. If you want to be able to utilize Social Security, Medicare, and even in some cases unemployment or disability insurance, you must be paid on the books.

The eNannySource Learning Center provides valuable guidance for both hiring families and those seeking employment about how to verify a nanny candidate’s legal status, industry guidelines for salary and benefits, and how to make sure the nanny tax is appropriately handled.

Hiring employees the proper way is not just about the money, it’s about respect as well. No one, regardless of where they are from, deserves to be treated like a piece of cardboard.

Feeding Time: What do you think of Alicia Silverstone’s ‘Mommy Bird’ method?

Monday, April 2nd, 2012

Actress Alicia Silverstone first got a lot of attention for her unusual taste in baby names.

Best known for her movie roles in “Clueless” (Cher) and “Batman” (Batgirl), actress Alicia Silverstone is now feeding an endless amount of watercooler chatter surrounding her parenting philosophy.

On her blog, “The Kind Life,” the actress recently posted this silent home video of herself feeding her baby son, Bear Blu, by first chewing the food and then regurgitating it into his mouth like a bird.

Writes Silverstone:

“I just had a delicious breakfast of miso soup, collards and radish steamed and drizzled with flax oil, cast iron mochi with nori wrapped outside, and some grated daikon. Yum! I fed Bear the mochi and a tiny bit of veggies from the soup…from my mouth to his. It’s his favorite…and mine. He literally crawls across the room to attack my mouth if I’m eating. This video was taken about a month or 2 ago when he was a bit wobbly. Now he is grabbing my mouth to get the food!”

The pop culture icon, well known for her public endorsement of the vegan lifestyle, certainly has eclectic tastes.  No Gerber squash or peas for little Baby Bear!

Baby Bear or Baby Bird? (Source: TheKindLife.com)

Pre-masticating or pre-chewing food for babies, also known as “kiss feeding,” is a practice that spans across cultures. One recent study reported that 63 percent of Chinese university students were fed this way when they were infants.

Regardless of how widely accepted the method is, Alicia Silverstone’s video was instantly met with wide ridicule.

The irreverent women’s blog Jezebel chastised the Hollywood star for “making out” with her son.

Comedian and late-night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel suggested parents everywhere get a laugh by pretending to adopt the technique for their older children. His YouTube Challenge is called “Hey Jimmy Kimmel, I Silverstone My Kid.”

What do you think: Can humans learn from the birds?

Here’s how the NY Daily News reported on Kimmel’s offbeat challenge, or should we say, dare:

“You can use any food. And tell your kids a doctor named Alicia Silverstone said it is healthy for parents to chew the food first. And explain this is how eating is going to work in the house from now on,” Kimmel said, while holding a plate of pre-chewed pizza, in a video uploaded to YouTube.

Kimmel tells parents to avoid actually chewing the food in what he calls, “one more step towards a real life hunger games.

“I don’t want you to spit food into your kid’s mouth, even I have limits.”

Kimmel amassed a series of hilarious videos during past challenges including “I told My Kids I ate All Their Halloween Candy” and “Unplug the TV During Super Bowl!”

And comedian Joan Rivers took it one step further by taking a bite out of her sandwich on the TV show “Fashion Police” and passing the food to the lips of her co-host, Kelly Osbourne.

On a more serious note, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention warn that the premastication technique NOT be used by caregivers who have the HIV virus because of potential spread of the disease through saliva.

If that issue is not a concern, then how you feed your baby really comes down to personal preference. There are many different parenting styles out there and the challenge of finding the perfect nanny is matching up with one who naturally shares your childcare philosophy.

At eNannySource.com, we’re proud to have connected more than 450,000 nannies and families over the past decade. Our Safe Nanny Hiring Kits, Nanny Background Checks and Nanny Learning Center make us the logical and affordable alternative to pricey nanny agencies.

Whether you prefer to pulverize solid food in a blender or seek alternative methods for your infant, no one knows your parenting preferences better than you — and you should be at the forefront of choosing your nanny!

That being said, what do YOU think about feeding your child pre-chewed food?

Avoiding Chicken Nugget Syndrome: How to hire a nanny who matches your parenting philosophy

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

British teenager Stacey Irvine has become a global tabloid sensation for her unusual eating habits. (Source: The Daily Mail)

This story really shouldn’t be that surprising to any parent or nanny who’s ever battled with a fussy toddler at the dinner table: a 17-year-old British girl has grown up eating a daily diet consisting primarily of fried chicken nuggets and French fries, or as the Brits call them, “chips.”

According to The Daily Mail, young Stacey Irvine was recently hospitalized as a result of breathing problems and anemia related to her extremely unbalanced nutritional intake. The girl, who is now being treated with injections of vitamins, told the media that she has never eaten or even tasted a single vegetable in her entire life.

How that contrasts with my own upbringing of not being able to leave the dinner table before finishing my broccoli!

In a rather ridiculous subtext to the malnutrition story, the Daily Mail asserts that the teenager “struggles” to find space for the Happy Meal toys she has accumulated over the years.

The byproduct of a chicken nugget habit is an avalanche of fast food toys! (Source: The Daily Mail)

Sensationalism aside, the chicken nugget story raises some basic questions about the role of parenting and nannying in general.  This girl would not have had experienced these kind of nutritional deficiencies if she had been guided by responsible caretakers.  Someone enabled this kind of behavior and allowed it to continue for years before it spun out of control.

Someone was being a horrible role model.

No one wants their child to grow up with avoidable health problems. Let’s say you are a responsible parent who fully realizes that parenting is a 24/7 commitment that never takes a break. And let’s say that you are searching for the perfect nanny or au pair who will support your values and enforce your wishes.

How do you find suitable candidates and know who you should hire?

Luckily, you’re not alone.  If you’re reading this, you’ve already found the most affordable alternative to a pricey nanny agency and one that doesn’t sacrifice the quality of your candidate pool.

Our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit, included in all our memberships, is the best way to ensure that you hire another you!

In addition to providing you with a nanny application, a thorough background check and a contract form approved by the International Nanny Association, we guide you through the initial phone interview screening process, the in-person interviews, and the hiring process.

It’s probably safe to say that you wouldn’t want to hire the Chicken Nugget Girl, although she probably would be fantastic in getting your kids to put their toys away!

 

 

Camcorder Child Care: The perils of being a YouTube parent

Sunday, November 27th, 2011

Make no bones about it, nannying is parenting with all the same joys and pitfalls. When you are in the moment with children, they don’t focus on the fact that you are a paid employee and that you may eventually move on to another family or other career. They’re too busy focused on being kids.

I’m fascinated with the still evolving aftermath of this cute YouTube video posted by a British dad four years ago. Titled “Charlie bit my finger — again!”, the clip’s charm lies in the older brother Harry’s eloquent protests as his mischievous little brother Charlie plays the “baby card” and pretends as if biting is perfectly OK.

Harry is now 7 and Charlie is 5, placing them at ages 3 and 1 when this video was originally shot.  Brace yourself for these numbers:

  • The video has been watched 389.2 million times.
  • It has been “liked” 808,860 times.
  • There are now 626,683 comments from YouTube viewers.

Not surprisingly, those kind of numbers make advertisers salivate, which leads us to the most stunning statistic of all: The Dad, Howard Davies-Carr, is raking in more than $160,000 (100,000 British Pounds) a year in online ad revenues.

At his “Charlie Bit My Finger – Again” blog, Davies-Carr tries to keep his “aging” kids in the pop cultural spotlight by making more bite-themed videos recreating the moment. They have attracted a following, but naturally lack the same spontaneity as the original.

Jim White, a columnist for The Telegraph in London, laments that all the copycat parents out there will surely be missing out on some of the joys of family life due to the preoccupation of creating the next hit on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube etc.

“But what exactly is Davies-Carr – and those seeking to emulate his financial good fortune – missing in the anxiety to record his children’s quirks for rewarding posterity? We used to mock the way Japanese tourists were apparently welded to their cameras, not seeing anything first hand, their experience of the world restricted to playback.

I remember once seeing a Japanese fan catching sight of himself on the big screen at a football match and immediately pointing his camera upwards to film the moment. When he played it back, however, with a view perhaps to posting it on YouTube, he will have discovered an awkward truth: his face was obscured by his camera. It could have been anyone up there.”

Very few of us will hit the YouTube lottery like this British dad and there certainly is nothing wrong with sharing some of life’s fun moments with friends and family.  But something does get lost when we constantly watch our kids play and interact through our camcorder viewfinder or cell phone camera.

The Harry and Charlie show also brings up the issue of child discipline and how parents and the family nanny, babysitter or au pair need to be on the same page for how to respond to behavioral problems. Personally, I have found it effective to show my four-year-old daughter the Yo Gabba Gabba music video “Don’t Bite Your Friends!” for messaging reinforcement.

We’d love to hear from parents and nannies about their favorite methods of discouraging human cannibalism in the playroom!

As the leading alternative to hiring a costly nanny agency, the eNannySource Learning Center is an invaluable resource to explore every aspect of your nanny search. It is especially vital that your views and parenting style are reinforced while your nanny or au pair is in charge. (Check out “Discipline and Boundaries for your Nanny” as a starting point).

On a more lighthearted note, there’s no harm in laughing at life’s sillier moments. If you’re not one of the 389 million clicks, judge for yourself if Harry should be upset at Charlie:

Searching for a nanny like Mary Poppins?

Sunday, November 20th, 2011

Disney's Broadway tribute to "Mary Poppins" is fantastic PR for the nanny and au pair profession.

No matter how many applicants you screen with our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit — included with all levels of membership — chances are that you will not be hiring a magical nanny with a flying umbrella.

Not to say that a real-life Mary Poppins couldn’t exist, it’s just that in our experiences matching 450,000 nannies and families, we haven’t found one yet.

I’m much more familiar with Disney’s Academy Award-winning film with Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke, in which Mary dances with chimney sweeps and makes her children’s toys come alive. The 1964 classic was named the #6 Greatest Movie Musical of All Time by the American Film Institute in the same tier as “Singing in the Rain” and “The Wizard of Oz.”

However, the new Broadway incarnation is bringing the world’s first supernanny to whole new audiences. Disney’s Mary Poppins is playing to sellout audiences as star Steffanie Leigh, who prepared for the role by first working as a real Manhattan nanny, flies above the crowd on a wire!

How important is a nanny's personality in your hiring decision? In this scene from Disney's "Mary Poppins" on Broadway, authoritarian nanny Miss Andrew tries to force feed medicine.

Mary’s nemesis, Miss Andrew, provides the perfect personality contrast to showcase the extremes of child discipline. In a new interview with Broadway.com, actress Ruth Gottschall muses how her character especially riles up the kiddies in the audience:

“I don’t think of Miss Andrew as being mean. She may be strict, but in her mind she’s doing what she thinks is right, and knows exactly how things should be run in the Banks household. If the audience falls in love with you, that’s terrific, but if they hate you that’s even better. Sometimes I even get booed! If I had a dollar for every time a child starts to scream or cry when I’m onstage…

At last Saturday’s matinee I finished my song and a little boy behind our conductor screamed, “Geez, someone should stab her through the chest with a pitchfork!” It helps me think, “OK, I earned my paycheck this week!”

In the Mary Poppins story, the father (Mr. Banks) and his children (Jane and Michael) have philosophical differences about how to write the job description when hiring a new nanny. Banks wants a strict disciplinarian, while the kids naturally prefer a fun, whimsical woman. Poppins, of course, manages to be a blend of the two, teaching character values and life lessons while still being the most entertaining lady on earth.

When it comes to searching for a nanny to meet your family’s unique needs, you’ll probably be grappling with similar questions. Yes, nanny background checks are extremely important. But that is only one piece of the puzzle. Finding the right personality cannot be rushed, unfortunately.

The good news is that you’re not alone. Our Nanny Success Kit has proven itself thousands of times over, taking you through each step of the search and hiring process. Determine what personality traits and qualifications are most important to you as a parent — and don’t settle for anything less.

Here are some essential Nanny Interview Questions to get you started.

Have you already found your Mary Poppins?  Tell us how you found your favorite nanny — and the impact she is having on your family life. Please drop us a line at eNannyTips@gmail.com and you might be featured in a future blog!