{"id":57,"date":"2010-06-25T00:29:00","date_gmt":"2010-06-25T00:29:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/?p=57"},"modified":"2014-01-13T16:01:40","modified_gmt":"2014-01-14T00:01:40","slug":"it-seems-like-my-nanny-isnt-listening-to-me-i-tell-her-one-thing-and-she-looks-like-she-is-agreeing-and-then-will-go-and-do-something-else","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/2010\/06\/25\/it-seems-like-my-nanny-isnt-listening-to-me-i-tell-her-one-thing-and-she-looks-like-she-is-agreeing-and-then-will-go-and-do-something-else\/","title":{"rendered":"It seems like my nanny isn\u2019t listening to me. I tell her one thing and she looks like she is agreeing and then will go and do something else."},"content":{"rendered":"

By, Dr. Lindsay Heller, The Nanny Doctor<\/a><\/p>\n

As a professional nanny consultant, I hear from nannies and families all over the world about their struggles and daily challenges. The topic of a nanny not being a \u201cself-starter\u201d tends to be quite a common issue, however this topic is a bit more complex than it may seem on the surface. As with all nanny-family relationship issues, we need to look at both parties\u2019 potential part in the problem. Take a look at this article on evaluating nanny success<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Examine how you are communicating your expectations and needs to your nanny. It is not enough sometimes to just tell your nanny to do something.<\/em><\/p>\n

There are many factors that could affect communication. Ask yourself is there a language barrier issue? Is there a cultural misunderstanding? Are you not being clear in setting the expectations? Are you assuming that they \u201cshould know this because they are a nanny\u201d?<\/p>\n

These are common contributing factors to the problem of your nanny not following through on one of your requests. The best way to communicate your expectations to your nanny is in a thorough, purposeful manner. This may mean:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0\u00a0 Demonstrating how you expect a task to be completed<\/p>\n

2)\u00a0\u00a0 Writing out directions regarding your expectations<\/p>\n

3)\u00a0\u00a0 Sitting down and setting aside some time to discuss why it didn\u2019t work, or why it wasn\u2019t exactly how you had requested.<\/p>\n

If you troubleshoot and determine that there isn\u2019t a language problem, it isn\u2019t a cultural misunderstanding, you have set clear expectations, not made any assumptions, then it may be an employee behavioral problem. Your nanny may have an idea of how they are going to do something and have rigid beliefs that they have a better way of doing something. This is when you need to sit down and have a talk and explain to her that things cannot continue this way. Assess the current situation. State that you have requested she do xyz, and ask why she hasn\u2019t been able to do xyz. Listen to your nanny, there may be a real reason why xyz is not happening. However, if there isn\u2019t really an answer probe a little further and ask her what you can do to ensure that xyz happens. In other words, find out how you can set her up for success!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As a professional nanny consultant, I hear from nannies and families all over the world about their struggles and daily challenges. The topic of a nanny not being a \u201cself-starter\u201d tends to be quite a common issue, however this topic is a bit more complex than it may seem on the surface. As with all nanny-family relationship issues, we need to look at both parties\u2019 potential part in the problem. Take a look at this article on evaluating nanny success. Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[13,5,6,3],"class_list":["post-57","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-hiringananny","tag-hire-a-nanny","tag-httpwww-enannysource-comnanniesnanny-jobs-now-aspx","tag-httpwww-enannysource-comfind-a-nannychildcare-nannies-aupairs-aspx","tag-httpwww-enannysource-comfind-nanny-jobnanny-work-aspx"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=57"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1439,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57\/revisions\/1439"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=57"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=57"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=57"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}