{"id":811,"date":"2012-09-06T05:12:40","date_gmt":"2012-09-06T12:12:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/?p=811"},"modified":"2012-09-06T05:12:40","modified_gmt":"2012-09-06T12:12:40","slug":"10-fears-parents-have-about-hiring-a-nanny","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.enannysource.com\/blog\/index.php\/2012\/09\/06\/10-fears-parents-have-about-hiring-a-nanny\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Fears Parents Have About Hiring a Nanny"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Hiring a nanny to care for your children may be one of the most important parenting decisions that you\u2019ll make during your child\u2019s younger years. Your nanny will be spending a huge quantity of time with your children, and for that reason alone you\u2019ll want to be sure to select a caregiver that has been properly screened and vetted.<\/p>\n

But even the best background screening can\u2019t always calm the fears of a mother who is faced with leaving her child in the care of someone else.\u00a0 While your hiring decision shouldn\u2019t be driven by fear, it can be helpful to acknowledge, address, and evaluate any fears that you may have.<\/p>\n

As you move through the process of hiring a nanny, here are some of the fears that you may face.<\/p>\n

Fear: Fear about the nanny working alone and unsupervised.\u00a0 <\/strong>What if my nanny falls and becomes unconscious and there is no one there to help her or to care for my child? What if my nanny sits on the couch and watches television all day because no one is watching? Establishing clear expectations, including rules about screen time and daily nanny\/parent check-ins, may help alleviate fears that stem from a nanny working alone.<\/p>\n

Fear: The children may love their nanny more. <\/strong>Are you worried your child may call your nanny mommy?\u00a0 Or that your child will come to love his nanny more? The bottom line is that children know the difference between their parents and their nanny.\u00a0 A child\u2019s love is multiplied, never divided, so encourage your child to have a loving relationship with his nanny. A child\u2019s heart may be small but it\u2019s filled with enough love to go around.<\/p>\n

Fear: \u00a0The children won\u2019t have a social life.<\/strong> Nannies are notorious for having the most happening playgroups that are filled with children enjoying each other\u2019s company. Encourage your nanny to venture out with your child and to interact with other children at the playground and library. If you give your nanny permission to foster friendships with your child, she gladly will.<\/p>\n

Fear: I\u2019m being a bad parent by having a nanny. <\/strong>A bad parent is a bad parent. A parent with a nanny is a parent with a nanny. Don\u2019t confuse the two. If you\u2019re in need of child care and you\u2019ve hired a loving and trusting provider to care for your child, you\u2019ve made a good parenting choice.<\/p>\n

Fear: \u00a0What are others going to think of me? <\/strong>What are my parents going to think? Or my neighbors? The truth is, it doesn\u2019t matter. You have to make the right care giving choice for your family. If you know that you\u2019ve done that, don\u2019t lend the critics your ear.<\/p>\n

Fear: My child will need me and I won\u2019t be there. <\/strong>What if my child falls down and gets hurt? What if my child just wants me? The reality is that there may be times when both of these scenarios are true. Hiring a trusted and qualified nanny can give you peace of mind to know that although you aren\u2019t there, someone you trust will be there until you are.<\/p>\n

Fear: My spouse may fall in love with our nanny.<\/strong> The fear of a husband falling in love with his nanny has been made popular by the media. While it has surely happened, it seems less likely or at least no more likely to happen then a man falling in love with his secretary at work. If you have a loving and trusting relationship with your spouse, you\u2019ll need to consider if hiring a nanny is of real concern.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear: My nanny is going to replace me. <\/strong>Many parents may wonder if their nanny will come to replace them. Nannies aren\u2019t hired to replace the parents, but to support them. As you search for a nanny, look for one that considers supporting the parent and child relationship as part of her role.<\/p>\n

Fear: There is no nanny for our family. <\/strong>There are as many unique nannies as there are families. Whether you are a single parent, gay parent, or attachment parent, chances are if you are up front about whom your family is and what your family is about, you are likely to find the right match.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear: I can\u2019t afford having a nanny.<\/strong> Hiring a nanny is definitely an investment, but for families who need flexibility or families who have more than one child in need of care, it may be the most cost effective option. And for families who pay their nanny legally there are tax breaks that can help reduce the cost.<\/p>\n

Hiring a nanny can bring up fears and anxieties in even the most laid back and secure parents. Identifying them, addressing them, and evaluating them can help you decide if they are worthy of influencing your hiring decision or not.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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