Posts Tagged ‘nanny services’

Traveling nannies support the U.S. Women’s Olympic Soccer Team

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

One day will there be an Olympic Gold for Nannying?

The U.S. Olympic Women’s Soccer team, which just won its first match against France in its bid to win the gold medal at the 2012 Summer Games in London, has a secret weapon: Nannies.

The Los Angeles Times recently revealed that U.S. Soccer, America’s governing organization for the sport, fully finances nanny services so players can bring their children on the road. The Times notes that several star players and key coaching personnel may have ended their careers earlier if there had not been family-friendly accommodations.

The policy is not a public relations gesture — it’s been going on for the past 16 years.

“U.S. Soccer considers this an important element to help those players with children to continue to contribute,” national team spokesman Neil Buethe tells the Times. “It allows the players to concentrate on their job of playing soccer without having to be away from their kids for a long period of time or worry about how they’re going to be able to balance their family and career while being on the road during training camp.”

Similar programs have been adopted by the golfers on the LPGA Tour and by the 2008 U.S. Women’s Olympic Softball Team, who competed in Beijing.  Despite the success of the program, unfortunately no other U.S. Olympic teams have official nannies on the payroll.

The 2012 U.S. Women’s Olympic Soccer Team is favored to contend for the gold medal this summer.

Soccer star Abby Wambach, who is the team’s second highest scorer, considers herself the squad’s “best babysitter,” as she often will volunteer to give the nannies a break.

“You spend so much time away from home, there’s only so many TV shows you can watch. There’s only so many conversations you can have. The added component of having kids around, it just is entertainment. It’s just such a great dynamic to bring into a team environment that can sometimes get monotonous,” she says.

Along with Brazil, the U.S. soccer team is heavily favored to be in the mix for the gold medal this year. As a fascinating aside, this is the first Olympic Games in which the amount of women athletes on the American team outnumbers men. The U.S. team is comprised of 269 women and 261 men competing in 25 different sports.

It’s refreshing to see a potential world champion team publicly praise its nannies for giving its players the peace of mind that their children are thriving even under the most intense training schedules.

Of course, you don’t need to be a world class athlete — or an athlete at all — to realize the family benefits of hiring a traveling nanny. For advice on finding the perfect nanny candidates to meet the demands of YOUR schedule, visit eNannySource’s free Learning Center!

Immigrants or not, are some nannies treated like cardboard?

Friday, June 15th, 2012

Artist Ramiro Gomez wants to raise awareness of "invisible" domestic workers in his city through handpainted cardboard cutouts. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

The Los Angeles Times recently showcased an enlightening project by a struggling artist and male nanny who is making public art to draw attention to the value of domestic work.

Ramiro Gomez Jr. creates vibrant 5-foot-tall cardboard cutouts of nannies, gardeners, housekeepers, valets and other service workers out of large television boxes he finds behind his local Best Buy.  The free-standing figures are placed in the swankiest, richest neighborhoods in Beverly Hills, Hollywood Hills and other highly desirable real estate markets.

“We see the beautiful homes. The hedges are trimmed, the gardens are perfect, the children are cared for,” Gomez tells the Times. “We’ve come to expect it to be this way. But who maintains all this? Who looks after it? And do we treat the workers with the dignity they deserve? Do we stop and notice them?”

The artist regularly photographs his cardboard creations in action poses at his Happy Hills blog.

Tough To Ignore: Artist Ramiro Gomez is calling for Los Angeles nannies and other domestic help to be treated with dignity. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

It can be heartbreaking for Gomez to watch what happens to his paintings. There are no velvet ropes like at a museum. It’s not uncommon for his sculptures to get trampled, thrown in a nearby trash bin or destroyed by animals or weather. The U.S. Secret Service recently ordered him to remove some gardener figures from the street when President Obama was in the city for a fundraiser.

The cardboard cutouts, which have attracted the attention of local art galleries and curators at UCLA, are obviously silent.

And what they’re not talking about is the open secret that paying undocumented workers (or nannies of any background) under the table is not just a tax evasion problem. It’s a formula for potential mistreatment and neglect.

Nannying is a profession, a career. Not some kind of odd job or series of chores you can find someone to do on Craigslist.

Having a written Nanny/Employer Work Agreement firmly establishes the job responsibilities, expectations and fair compensation/benefits for both sides.  While it must be tempting to avoid the paperwork and take home more money in cash, being paid legally makes sense in the long term.

Having proof of employment is essential for establishing credit and securing loans for cars, homes and more. If you want to be able to utilize Social Security, Medicare, and even in some cases unemployment or disability insurance, you must be paid on the books.

The eNannySource Learning Center provides valuable guidance for both hiring families and those seeking employment about how to verify a nanny candidate’s legal status, industry guidelines for salary and benefits, and how to make sure the nanny tax is appropriately handled.

Hiring employees the proper way is not just about the money, it’s about respect as well. No one, regardless of where they are from, deserves to be treated like a piece of cardboard.

Cardboard Creativity: Nannies can be their children’s inspirational muse

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2012
Caine Monroy, 9, built a dream arcade out of cardboard boxes that inspired tens of thousands of strangers!

Every once in a while there’s a story on the Internet that makes every parent, teacher or caregiver cry.  The happy kind of cry.

In case you missed it, Caine Monroy is a gregarious 9-year-old boy who spends much of his time after school hanging out at his dad’s used auto parts store in East Los Angeles. Caine, a budding entrepreneur, designed and built an elaborate collection of arcade games and machines using only cardboard boxes and packing tape.

Most of the amusements are classics you’d find at any carnival midway, including one of those crank claw/crane machines that challenge you to scoop up stuffed animals. He selflessly used his own toys as prizes. Customers could play the games four times for $1 or get a “Fun Pass” good for 500 plays at a bargain price of $2.

Just one problem… Caine’s father’s auto shop is a virtual ghost town with barely any random foot traffic. Most customers are generally in a rush and don’t have the time to humor the boy.

Waiting for customers who may never arrive.... or will they?

Filmmaker Nirvan Mullick is the exception. He not only buys a Fun Pass, but takes the time to play each cardboard game and get to know Caine.

He’s so impressed with the kid’s spirit, that he does a bit of impromptu marketing and turns Caine’s Arcade into a busy, standing-room-only attraction.

How did one kid's fantasy project capture the imagination of an entire city? (Click to enlarge image)

I’m not going to tell you how that happens — let’s save the surprise ending for when you get a chance to watch Mullick’s short film below — but it’s a heartwarming  example of how adults can make a tremendous difference in a child’s life just by making a tiny effort.

Contrary to popular belief, a nanny isn’t an hourly babysitter or someone to just make sure the kids don’t run out in the middle of the street. A professional nanny sees herself as a substitute parent, just as concerned with a child’s emotional, social and intellectual development as she is about bedtimes and making sure all the vegetables get eaten.

Not every kid’s idea will be as cute or as clever as Caine’s Arcade — and certainly very few will have these kind of miraculous results (again, you MUST watch the video). But encouraging children to dream, work hard and enjoy the limitless boundaries of their imaginations should be part of any full-time nanny’s job description. Most of the challenge simply comes down to patiently listening, and making the effort to engage with a child’s interests instead of trying to squeeze in one more text or an extra TV show.

At eNannySource, we urge every parent to run a Nanny Background Check on prospective candidates, but the screening shouldn’t end there. You’re not hiring a bodyguard or Secret Service Agent. Personality matters — a lot!

Searching for a nanny should include a personality screening, a set of interview questions that make it clear if she will be an ideal match for your family and parenting style. Only you know what’s most important for your needs, but here are “9 Questions for the Nanny Interview That Make the Difference” to get you started.

Feel free to mix it up a bit and see how she feels about this video!

Perhaps the most inspiring part of the whole story is how the filmmaker’s kindness will keep on giving. Mullick has set up a Caine’s Arcade Scholarship Fund to help Caine and other kids from disadvantaged backgrounds go to college.

Feeding Time: What do you think of Alicia Silverstone’s ‘Mommy Bird’ method?

Monday, April 2nd, 2012

Actress Alicia Silverstone first got a lot of attention for her unusual taste in baby names.

Best known for her movie roles in “Clueless” (Cher) and “Batman” (Batgirl), actress Alicia Silverstone is now feeding an endless amount of watercooler chatter surrounding her parenting philosophy.

On her blog, “The Kind Life,” the actress recently posted this silent home video of herself feeding her baby son, Bear Blu, by first chewing the food and then regurgitating it into his mouth like a bird.

Writes Silverstone:

“I just had a delicious breakfast of miso soup, collards and radish steamed and drizzled with flax oil, cast iron mochi with nori wrapped outside, and some grated daikon. Yum! I fed Bear the mochi and a tiny bit of veggies from the soup…from my mouth to his. It’s his favorite…and mine. He literally crawls across the room to attack my mouth if I’m eating. This video was taken about a month or 2 ago when he was a bit wobbly. Now he is grabbing my mouth to get the food!”

The pop culture icon, well known for her public endorsement of the vegan lifestyle, certainly has eclectic tastes.  No Gerber squash or peas for little Baby Bear!

Baby Bear or Baby Bird? (Source: TheKindLife.com)

Pre-masticating or pre-chewing food for babies, also known as “kiss feeding,” is a practice that spans across cultures. One recent study reported that 63 percent of Chinese university students were fed this way when they were infants.

Regardless of how widely accepted the method is, Alicia Silverstone’s video was instantly met with wide ridicule.

The irreverent women’s blog Jezebel chastised the Hollywood star for “making out” with her son.

Comedian and late-night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel suggested parents everywhere get a laugh by pretending to adopt the technique for their older children. His YouTube Challenge is called “Hey Jimmy Kimmel, I Silverstone My Kid.”

What do you think: Can humans learn from the birds?

Here’s how the NY Daily News reported on Kimmel’s offbeat challenge, or should we say, dare:

“You can use any food. And tell your kids a doctor named Alicia Silverstone said it is healthy for parents to chew the food first. And explain this is how eating is going to work in the house from now on,” Kimmel said, while holding a plate of pre-chewed pizza, in a video uploaded to YouTube.

Kimmel tells parents to avoid actually chewing the food in what he calls, “one more step towards a real life hunger games.

“I don’t want you to spit food into your kid’s mouth, even I have limits.”

Kimmel amassed a series of hilarious videos during past challenges including “I told My Kids I ate All Their Halloween Candy” and “Unplug the TV During Super Bowl!”

And comedian Joan Rivers took it one step further by taking a bite out of her sandwich on the TV show “Fashion Police” and passing the food to the lips of her co-host, Kelly Osbourne.

On a more serious note, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention warn that the premastication technique NOT be used by caregivers who have the HIV virus because of potential spread of the disease through saliva.

If that issue is not a concern, then how you feed your baby really comes down to personal preference. There are many different parenting styles out there and the challenge of finding the perfect nanny is matching up with one who naturally shares your childcare philosophy.

At eNannySource.com, we’re proud to have connected more than 450,000 nannies and families over the past decade. Our Safe Nanny Hiring Kits, Nanny Background Checks and Nanny Learning Center make us the logical and affordable alternative to pricey nanny agencies.

Whether you prefer to pulverize solid food in a blender or seek alternative methods for your infant, no one knows your parenting preferences better than you — and you should be at the forefront of choosing your nanny!

That being said, what do YOU think about feeding your child pre-chewed food?

Avoiding Chicken Nugget Syndrome: How to hire a nanny who matches your parenting philosophy

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

British teenager Stacey Irvine has become a global tabloid sensation for her unusual eating habits. (Source: The Daily Mail)

This story really shouldn’t be that surprising to any parent or nanny who’s ever battled with a fussy toddler at the dinner table: a 17-year-old British girl has grown up eating a daily diet consisting primarily of fried chicken nuggets and French fries, or as the Brits call them, “chips.”

According to The Daily Mail, young Stacey Irvine was recently hospitalized as a result of breathing problems and anemia related to her extremely unbalanced nutritional intake. The girl, who is now being treated with injections of vitamins, told the media that she has never eaten or even tasted a single vegetable in her entire life.

How that contrasts with my own upbringing of not being able to leave the dinner table before finishing my broccoli!

In a rather ridiculous subtext to the malnutrition story, the Daily Mail asserts that the teenager “struggles” to find space for the Happy Meal toys she has accumulated over the years.

The byproduct of a chicken nugget habit is an avalanche of fast food toys! (Source: The Daily Mail)

Sensationalism aside, the chicken nugget story raises some basic questions about the role of parenting and nannying in general.  This girl would not have had experienced these kind of nutritional deficiencies if she had been guided by responsible caretakers.  Someone enabled this kind of behavior and allowed it to continue for years before it spun out of control.

Someone was being a horrible role model.

No one wants their child to grow up with avoidable health problems. Let’s say you are a responsible parent who fully realizes that parenting is a 24/7 commitment that never takes a break. And let’s say that you are searching for the perfect nanny or au pair who will support your values and enforce your wishes.

How do you find suitable candidates and know who you should hire?

Luckily, you’re not alone.  If you’re reading this, you’ve already found the most affordable alternative to a pricey nanny agency and one that doesn’t sacrifice the quality of your candidate pool.

Our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit, included in all our memberships, is the best way to ensure that you hire another you!

In addition to providing you with a nanny application, a thorough background check and a contract form approved by the International Nanny Association, we guide you through the initial phone interview screening process, the in-person interviews, and the hiring process.

It’s probably safe to say that you wouldn’t want to hire the Chicken Nugget Girl, although she probably would be fantastic in getting your kids to put their toys away!

 

 

Dangerous Veggies and Other Risky Toys to Keep on Your Nanny Radar

Monday, January 16th, 2012

"Play With Your Veggies" toys are amongst the recalled playthings listed at the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission.

Killer asparagus?  As if we didn’t have enough things to worry about!

The above felt and wool asparagus, from Land of Nod toys, was recently recalled because of a tendency of the inner wire to poke through the veggie skin and pose a choking and laceration hazard.

Warnings like these are quite commonplace in magazines, newspapers, Websites and the airwaves in between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, representing the bulk of the holiday shopping season.  But the information is just as relevant — or perhaps even more so right now — as we let our guard down as our kids settle into their new toys and develop new routines.

Nothing is more tragic than hearing that an item meant to spread joy has become an inadvertent weapon to harm children — as was the case with this toy workbench from Little Tykes:

Little Tyke tools were just recalled because some of nails posed choking hazards.

More than 3.3 million Little Tykes workbenches and trucks that were made between 1990 and 2004 contain these nails, which officials warn can get lodged in a toddler’s throat. I personally just found one of these workbenches in my basement, where it sits because my four-year-old daughter has lost interest. But nonetheless, it’s time for the dump.

When you take on the responsibility of a nanny, you are the substitute eyes and ears of the parents. Quite frankly, any item can pose a choking hazard if a child is brazen enough. We can’t recall everything they might potentially put in their mouths (though play food is a very logical thing for a kid to munch on).

If you’re searching for a nanny, finding one who’ll treat your children as if they are her own is no easy task. Our Safe Nanny Success Kit is a great place to start, offering advice on how to meticulously approach the process using the same proven screening methods as a professional nanny agency.

Regardless if you are a parent or a nanny, it’s a great idea to get on a few year-round mailing lists to stay up to date on which toys are bad news. One of my most frequent check-ins is with World Against Toys Causing Harm, or WATCH, which issues toy safety report cards and for the past 39 years, an annual “10 Worst Toys” list.

I encourage you to digest the 2011 nominees and see if any match up with what’s in your family playrooms.

Jack Sparrow's sword has the potential for choking and/or causing eye injuries.

Prominent on the WATCH list is a Pirates of the Caribbean action figure which has a stiff plastic sword rivaling those red plastic cocktail toothpicks you can sometimes get at theme restaurants.  I used to play with those toothpick swords as a kid and still have two intact eyes, so as always, it comes down to knowing your children and how responsible they are around various potential hazards.

While you’re beefing up your toy safety knowledge, also put yourself on the email list for the U.S. Public Interest Research Group (U.S. PIRG), which issues a yearly “Trouble in Toyland” report.  Most problematic in this year’s findings are revelations that numerous toys still contain high levels of phthalates, plastic chemicals believed to be linked to childhood development delays. And astoundingly, after years of crusading about the dangers of lead poisoning, there are still a few toys tainted with lead.

Lastly, there’s the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), which maintains perhaps the most comprehensive toy recall list available. The sheer number of toys which pose a potential health hazard will STUN you.

Which makes your job as a nanny all the more important. Taking an alertness break is never an option!

Searching for a nanny like Mary Poppins?

Sunday, November 20th, 2011

Disney's Broadway tribute to "Mary Poppins" is fantastic PR for the nanny and au pair profession.

No matter how many applicants you screen with our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit — included with all levels of membership — chances are that you will not be hiring a magical nanny with a flying umbrella.

Not to say that a real-life Mary Poppins couldn’t exist, it’s just that in our experiences matching 450,000 nannies and families, we haven’t found one yet.

I’m much more familiar with Disney’s Academy Award-winning film with Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke, in which Mary dances with chimney sweeps and makes her children’s toys come alive. The 1964 classic was named the #6 Greatest Movie Musical of All Time by the American Film Institute in the same tier as “Singing in the Rain” and “The Wizard of Oz.”

However, the new Broadway incarnation is bringing the world’s first supernanny to whole new audiences. Disney’s Mary Poppins is playing to sellout audiences as star Steffanie Leigh, who prepared for the role by first working as a real Manhattan nanny, flies above the crowd on a wire!

How important is a nanny's personality in your hiring decision? In this scene from Disney's "Mary Poppins" on Broadway, authoritarian nanny Miss Andrew tries to force feed medicine.

Mary’s nemesis, Miss Andrew, provides the perfect personality contrast to showcase the extremes of child discipline. In a new interview with Broadway.com, actress Ruth Gottschall muses how her character especially riles up the kiddies in the audience:

“I don’t think of Miss Andrew as being mean. She may be strict, but in her mind she’s doing what she thinks is right, and knows exactly how things should be run in the Banks household. If the audience falls in love with you, that’s terrific, but if they hate you that’s even better. Sometimes I even get booed! If I had a dollar for every time a child starts to scream or cry when I’m onstage…

At last Saturday’s matinee I finished my song and a little boy behind our conductor screamed, “Geez, someone should stab her through the chest with a pitchfork!” It helps me think, “OK, I earned my paycheck this week!”

In the Mary Poppins story, the father (Mr. Banks) and his children (Jane and Michael) have philosophical differences about how to write the job description when hiring a new nanny. Banks wants a strict disciplinarian, while the kids naturally prefer a fun, whimsical woman. Poppins, of course, manages to be a blend of the two, teaching character values and life lessons while still being the most entertaining lady on earth.

When it comes to searching for a nanny to meet your family’s unique needs, you’ll probably be grappling with similar questions. Yes, nanny background checks are extremely important. But that is only one piece of the puzzle. Finding the right personality cannot be rushed, unfortunately.

The good news is that you’re not alone. Our Nanny Success Kit has proven itself thousands of times over, taking you through each step of the search and hiring process. Determine what personality traits and qualifications are most important to you as a parent — and don’t settle for anything less.

Here are some essential Nanny Interview Questions to get you started.

Have you already found your Mary Poppins?  Tell us how you found your favorite nanny — and the impact she is having on your family life. Please drop us a line at eNannyTips@gmail.com and you might be featured in a future blog!

Part Two How to avoid hiring the wrong nanny

Saturday, August 13th, 2011

This nanny blog post is a continuation of the prior blog post with the same name. For those that didn’t read part one, it was based on a recent incident of a nanny caught on a nanny cam dropping, kicking and hitting a baby.  Fortunately the child wasn’t physically harmed, but you can imagine the emotional trauma to this baby.

In my prior post I mentioned that a well-respected full service nanny agency is your best defense against this type of horrible incident since they truly are professionals and have many built in safeguards to assure this won’t happen.

Since a high percentage of families won’t use a full-service nanny agency because of the cost and perceived idea that they don’t add value to their hiring, what can a family do to protect themselves? First of all, don’t take yourself off the hook by saying you did a nanny background check.  I sincerely believe the nanny involved in the incident in NJ didn’t have a criminal record. Very, very few nannies do. By all means do a nanny background check just to be sure and not sorry, but don’t rely on that for your screening.

Remember, first of all nannies found on Craigslist, online nanny sites are not vetted in any way, in spite of what some of these sites may lead you to believe.  We’re all DIY sites, so be prepared to do your homework!

What is the homework?
Use a real nanny application not just the information provided by the online site.  Look for inconsistencies such as when one job began and the other ended and the reason for the job ending.  Be on the lookout, many job hunters use their friends and relatives as references, but don’t say they’re related.  Use a nanny reference check form so that you ask the right questions. Listen to your instincts, does the person feel like a salesperson to you?  If, so it may be a phony reference.

Demand that the nanny explain gaps in employment and give you prior addresses where she lived and then compare them with the SSN address report from the background check.  Get a copy of her ID, driver’s license, SS card and immigration documents if they are not native born.

I’ve saved the most important part for last.  Interview her first in a neutral place and then if you like her have her come to your home.  Be sure if both spouses live together that both are at the interview, if not have a friend sit in on the interview.

Once she’s passed all these tests, have her come back to your house and spend some time with your children to see how they respond to her.  If you’re still comfortable with her at this point, I bet you’ve made a good decision, since you were thorough and NOT RUSHED.

Just to be on the safe side use a nanny cam and drop in on her once or twice a day at different times just to see how things are going.

How to avoid hiring the wrong nanny

Sunday, August 7th, 2011

Recently a nanny was caught hitting and kicking a baby. It’s hard to understand how someone could do something like that to a child. Thank goodness the family had a nanny cam and caught it and fired her immediately.

I’m sure that many parents are thinking after reading about this incident, “Here we go again, another nanny hurting an innocent child. We can’t trust a nanny with our children.”  This event is alarming and disturbing to all of us and probably more so to those of us in the online nanny business.

Rather than going into a defense of online nanny services, I want to talk about what could be done to possibly prevent this from happening. I’m not going to address the particular circumstances of this sad event since I don’t know enough about the details to make a comment, and I certainly don’t want to say anything that could imply parents are at fault when something like this occurs, they most definitely were not.

I believe that hiring and vetting a nanny is complex, difficult tasks that whose difficulty is underestimated by many families who believe they can go by their “gut” when hiring a nanny. Of course our gut is the primary line of defense for all of us adults when making important decisions, but gut is built on experience which few families have in this arena. Are we all experts in human nature and do we all have great interviewing skills when hiring a potential caregiver to our child? Do things like time pressure to hire quickly so that mom and dad can get to work and money not impact our judgment? Of course they do. Have you have heard about Malcolm Gladwell’s rule of 10,000 hours to be an expert in an area?

It may sound strange coming from the owner of an online nanny service to say this, but the best line of defense for families hiring a nanny is using a full-service nanny agency. They have the skills and discipline to get it right. Nanny agencies have tough standards on experience and references that eliminate most candidates so families aren’t exposed to them. They know how to find phony references and they interview thousands of nannies-and as we know with experience comes expertise.

In the next installment I’ll discuss tools that families can use when hiring on their own without an agency.

Communicating with your nanny

Monday, June 13th, 2011

After over 17 years in the nanny business and 13+ years as a nanny employer I’ve come to believe that communication is the most important element in a successful nanny/family relationship. The nanny I hire has been with me started when my son was born.

Over the years we have grown to trust each other completely and that trust was built on communication. Claudia is a very smart, hard-working person who loves my son. I treat her in every way as an equal (she’s my superior in some ways!) and greatly respect her. I never treat her as an “employee”, but rather as a partner.

Because of the high regard I hold her in my son respects her and values her in the same way that I do. I believe that it reflects on me as a parent by the people I have in our lives. Danny picks up good values that he can use throughout his life from his and my relationship with Claudia.

I don’t know how many times I’ve been in social situations and the parents complain to me about the quality of the person that works for them. Often times insulting their intelligence, motivation and more. What message are they sending to their kids?