Posts Tagged ‘Nanny Background check’

Cardboard Creativity: Nannies can be their children’s inspirational muse

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2012
Caine Monroy, 9, built a dream arcade out of cardboard boxes that inspired tens of thousands of strangers!

Every once in a while there’s a story on the Internet that makes every parent, teacher or caregiver cry.  The happy kind of cry.

In case you missed it, Caine Monroy is a gregarious 9-year-old boy who spends much of his time after school hanging out at his dad’s used auto parts store in East Los Angeles. Caine, a budding entrepreneur, designed and built an elaborate collection of arcade games and machines using only cardboard boxes and packing tape.

Most of the amusements are classics you’d find at any carnival midway, including one of those crank claw/crane machines that challenge you to scoop up stuffed animals. He selflessly used his own toys as prizes. Customers could play the games four times for $1 or get a “Fun Pass” good for 500 plays at a bargain price of $2.

Just one problem… Caine’s father’s auto shop is a virtual ghost town with barely any random foot traffic. Most customers are generally in a rush and don’t have the time to humor the boy.

Waiting for customers who may never arrive.... or will they?

Filmmaker Nirvan Mullick is the exception. He not only buys a Fun Pass, but takes the time to play each cardboard game and get to know Caine.

He’s so impressed with the kid’s spirit, that he does a bit of impromptu marketing and turns Caine’s Arcade into a busy, standing-room-only attraction.

How did one kid's fantasy project capture the imagination of an entire city? (Click to enlarge image)

I’m not going to tell you how that happens — let’s save the surprise ending for when you get a chance to watch Mullick’s short film below — but it’s a heartwarming  example of how adults can make a tremendous difference in a child’s life just by making a tiny effort.

Contrary to popular belief, a nanny isn’t an hourly babysitter or someone to just make sure the kids don’t run out in the middle of the street. A professional nanny sees herself as a substitute parent, just as concerned with a child’s emotional, social and intellectual development as she is about bedtimes and making sure all the vegetables get eaten.

Not every kid’s idea will be as cute or as clever as Caine’s Arcade — and certainly very few will have these kind of miraculous results (again, you MUST watch the video). But encouraging children to dream, work hard and enjoy the limitless boundaries of their imaginations should be part of any full-time nanny’s job description. Most of the challenge simply comes down to patiently listening, and making the effort to engage with a child’s interests instead of trying to squeeze in one more text or an extra TV show.

At eNannySource, we urge every parent to run a Nanny Background Check on prospective candidates, but the screening shouldn’t end there. You’re not hiring a bodyguard or Secret Service Agent. Personality matters — a lot!

Searching for a nanny should include a personality screening, a set of interview questions that make it clear if she will be an ideal match for your family and parenting style. Only you know what’s most important for your needs, but here are “9 Questions for the Nanny Interview That Make the Difference” to get you started.

Feel free to mix it up a bit and see how she feels about this video!

Perhaps the most inspiring part of the whole story is how the filmmaker’s kindness will keep on giving. Mullick has set up a Caine’s Arcade Scholarship Fund to help Caine and other kids from disadvantaged backgrounds go to college.

Want “America’s Supernanny” to take over your home?

Friday, April 13th, 2012

Interested in having your home become a "Supernanny" laboratory for the whole world to see? Click the pic for more details!

Oh yes, potential fame is ringing your doorbell!

The producers of “America’s Supernanny” on Lifetime Television are now having an open casting call for Florida and Georgia families eager to host reality TV star and nanny guru Deborah Tillman.

The Supernanny got her start in the early 1990s when she was looking to hire nannies for her infant son and just couldn’t find quality help. According to her TV bio, she went through SEVEN childcare providers before deciding she was best qualified for the job herself. Tillman quit her day job as an accountant and opened a home-based school and daycare center where she could guarantee her child wouldn’t have a warehouse-like experience.

Her daycare facility rapidly expanded and she now runs three centers in Virginia. She is also the author of “Stepping Out on Faith,” a how-to manual on opening up a child care facility like hers.

On the Lifetime series, Tillman is known for her no-nonsense style in advising families how to handle picky eaters, spoiled brats, hyperactive children and overall bad behavior. She’s not an actress plucked from a pile of pretty headshots. This Supernanny has a Master’s Degree in Early Childhood Special Education from George Washington University.

So, you want her in YOUR home?

The producers are looking to connect with parents dealing with “extraordinary circumstances” and who are “desperate for help.”

Here’s a sneak peek at some of their screening questions:

  • Do your children exhibit extreme physical behavior? (i.e. hitting, scratching, choking, spitting)
  • Do your children throw fits or tantrums?
  • Are there any conflicts involving your kids in the neighborhood? Does the parenting philosophy/set of rules (or lack thereof) of other parents in the neighborhood affect your own kids’ behavior?
  • Do your kids engage in behavior that destroys the house/toys/car? (e.g. drawing on walls, smashing toys)
  • Do they talk back to you or your partner (swearing/tantrums/outbursts)? What provokes it? Which bad words do they use?

Wow. It can get stressful even reading those questions!  Even if you are not from Florida or Georgia, it makes sense to fill out the survey because the TV show is recruiting families nationwide.

Supernanny Deborah Tillman

Reality shows tend to focus on extreme cases, because hey, that’s what creates the drama. But the reality is that most of us have children who misbehave sometimes — just not in the public eye.

If you’re looking for the right Supernanny for your home, one available for hire (Tillman presumably won’t stay at your home when the camera crews leave), then you’ve come to right place.

We’re proven matchmakers, having connected more than 450,000 nannies and families over the past decade. eNannySource is the affordable alternative to expensive nanny agencies, offering you extensive nanny background checks, and guiding you through every step of the screening and hiring process at our free Learning Center.

But if you want some Hollywood inspiration for the personality traits you want or don’t want in your honorary new family member, check out this clip of the Supernanny taking on the challenge of “zombie” children being babysat by TV and video games 24/7:

Feeding Time: What do you think of Alicia Silverstone’s ‘Mommy Bird’ method?

Monday, April 2nd, 2012

Actress Alicia Silverstone first got a lot of attention for her unusual taste in baby names.

Best known for her movie roles in “Clueless” (Cher) and “Batman” (Batgirl), actress Alicia Silverstone is now feeding an endless amount of watercooler chatter surrounding her parenting philosophy.

On her blog, “The Kind Life,” the actress recently posted this silent home video of herself feeding her baby son, Bear Blu, by first chewing the food and then regurgitating it into his mouth like a bird.

Writes Silverstone:

“I just had a delicious breakfast of miso soup, collards and radish steamed and drizzled with flax oil, cast iron mochi with nori wrapped outside, and some grated daikon. Yum! I fed Bear the mochi and a tiny bit of veggies from the soup…from my mouth to his. It’s his favorite…and mine. He literally crawls across the room to attack my mouth if I’m eating. This video was taken about a month or 2 ago when he was a bit wobbly. Now he is grabbing my mouth to get the food!”

The pop culture icon, well known for her public endorsement of the vegan lifestyle, certainly has eclectic tastes.  No Gerber squash or peas for little Baby Bear!

Baby Bear or Baby Bird? (Source: TheKindLife.com)

Pre-masticating or pre-chewing food for babies, also known as “kiss feeding,” is a practice that spans across cultures. One recent study reported that 63 percent of Chinese university students were fed this way when they were infants.

Regardless of how widely accepted the method is, Alicia Silverstone’s video was instantly met with wide ridicule.

The irreverent women’s blog Jezebel chastised the Hollywood star for “making out” with her son.

Comedian and late-night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel suggested parents everywhere get a laugh by pretending to adopt the technique for their older children. His YouTube Challenge is called “Hey Jimmy Kimmel, I Silverstone My Kid.”

What do you think: Can humans learn from the birds?

Here’s how the NY Daily News reported on Kimmel’s offbeat challenge, or should we say, dare:

“You can use any food. And tell your kids a doctor named Alicia Silverstone said it is healthy for parents to chew the food first. And explain this is how eating is going to work in the house from now on,” Kimmel said, while holding a plate of pre-chewed pizza, in a video uploaded to YouTube.

Kimmel tells parents to avoid actually chewing the food in what he calls, “one more step towards a real life hunger games.

“I don’t want you to spit food into your kid’s mouth, even I have limits.”

Kimmel amassed a series of hilarious videos during past challenges including “I told My Kids I ate All Their Halloween Candy” and “Unplug the TV During Super Bowl!”

And comedian Joan Rivers took it one step further by taking a bite out of her sandwich on the TV show “Fashion Police” and passing the food to the lips of her co-host, Kelly Osbourne.

On a more serious note, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention warn that the premastication technique NOT be used by caregivers who have the HIV virus because of potential spread of the disease through saliva.

If that issue is not a concern, then how you feed your baby really comes down to personal preference. There are many different parenting styles out there and the challenge of finding the perfect nanny is matching up with one who naturally shares your childcare philosophy.

At eNannySource.com, we’re proud to have connected more than 450,000 nannies and families over the past decade. Our Safe Nanny Hiring Kits, Nanny Background Checks and Nanny Learning Center make us the logical and affordable alternative to pricey nanny agencies.

Whether you prefer to pulverize solid food in a blender or seek alternative methods for your infant, no one knows your parenting preferences better than you — and you should be at the forefront of choosing your nanny!

That being said, what do YOU think about feeding your child pre-chewed food?

Beyond Politics in the Playroom: Nannies get to re-experience the joys of childhood toys

Friday, March 23rd, 2012

Republican presidential candidates recently brought out unusual props on the campaign trail -- the classic Etch A Sketch.

A strange but wondrous thing recently happened in the presidential race. The spokesperson for Mitt Romney recently playfully compared the 2012 Election to an Etch A Sketch toy, predicting that the slate of primary issues would be wiped clean once his candidate faced President Obama in the fall. Rivals Rick Santorum (left) and Newt Gingrich (right) used the metaphor to mock Romney, alleging that HE was the embodiment of the toy and that you could shake him up and erase his positions if the polls aren’t going his way.

For a brief moment, I don’t see a political fight in the photo montage above. I see two grown men playing with toys.

There are millions of parents like me who grew up fiddling with an Etch A Sketch.  Trying to coordinate the right and left knobs perfectly so the vertical and horizontal controls produce diagonals…. It’s not as easy as it looks (You can try the tablet online here by using the arrows on your keyboard).

One of the great job benefits of being a nanny or au pair is the high percentage of time devoted to play.  This element might sometimes be forgotten when you are managing three screaming toddlers in a minivan on the way to the supermarket, but there is a higher percentage of fun associated with this job than many other careers.

Yes, nannies are there to make sure kids are safe, and eat right, and do their homework — virtually the same set of responsibilities as parenting — but the ideal nanny should show her entertainer side more often than her drill sergeant side. (As an aside, eNanny Source membership includes interview guidelines and hiring tips for when you are screening candidates for personality traits).

Not Just a Game: Playing is essential for child development!

Hiring a nanny who truly enjoys playing is essential for finding the right match with your kids. Numerous studies have shown that playtime isn’t simply a way to pass time and keep the little ones busy, but that it plays a key role in emotional, social and intellectual growth and development.

Consider:

  • According to this NPR report, imaginative play is “a powerful tool for building self-discipline is because during make-believe, children engage in what’s called private speech: They talk to themselves about what they are going to do and how they are going to do it.”
  • The Chronicle for Higher Education found that trying to completely replace unstructured free playtime with “educational activities” is ultimately counterproductive. Play reduces stress, improves children’s social skills and behavior as well as sharpens their memory recall.
  • Researcher Stuart Brown, of the National Institute of Play, has discovered a strong correlation between happiness and self-fulfillment in adults and their continued pursuit of play.

On that last note, maybe it’s a blessing that our politicians are pulling out the Etch A Sketch!

Which toys from your playroom do you think might show up on the nightly news next?  My bet is the board game “Operation” when the debate over national health care inevitably resurfaces.

China’s “Octomom” spurs nanny hiring boom

Tuesday, January 24th, 2012

These Chinese octuplets, born with the help of in vitro fertilization and three different mothers, have raised ethical questions in a country known for its strict One Child policy for population control.

So you already know the challenges of hiring a nanny for your busy family.  Imagine all the background checks and job interviews you’d need to hire 11 perfect candidates!

In Guangzhou, China, an unidentified wealthy couple has just sent shockwaves throughout the country for engineering the birth of octuplets in a blatant defiance of the Chinese “One Child” policy. According to the Associated Press, the couple was discovered by the media after bringing their children to a local photo studio for a series of cutesy costumed poses.

From the AP report:

“… many Chinese were amazed to learn that a couple had spent nearly 1 million yuan ($160,000) and illegally enlisted two surrogate mothers to help have the four boys and four girls.

The incident has highlighted both the use of birth surrogates, a violation of Chinese law, and how wealthy Chinese do as they please, with scant regard for the rules that constrain others. The most-common reaction, though, has been simple disbelief.

… Chinese media are calling the mother babaotai muqin, or Octomom, a reference to the American woman who gave birth to octuplets using in vitro fertilization.”

The biological mother is believed to have given birth to two of her children, while two surrogate mothers gave birth to three children each.

The babies were born last October. The Guangzhou Daily, a government-run newspaper, reported that the mystery couple hired 11 nannies to handle the stress of being first-time parents with 8 newborns.  The paper also said that the couple and the babies are now “in hiding” to shield themselves from public resentment.

Hopefully, these babies won't be negatively impacted by the legal circumstances they obviously had nothing to do with.

The Chinese media’s “Octomom” reference, of course, is to tabloid darling Nadya Suleman, the single mom who notoriously had herself implanted with 12 embryos despite already having six children. It’s estimated that raising 14 kids at once costs $78,336, a figure that’s easy to understand once you’ve purchased your first case of diapers and baby formula.

Perhaps fueled by anger that her personal costs need to be subsidized by government assistance, Ms. Suleman recently had the dubious distinction of being voted near the top of America’s Most Hated List.  She recently told the TODAY Show that she feels like she is being scapegoated because she is an unemployed single mother.

“If I had a mate, that would have defused a lot of the animosity,” she told the NBC show.

Meanwhile, a recent survey of 1,200 mothers for TheBump.com and Forbes Woman concluded that 92 percent of working moms and 89 percent of stay-at-home moms feel overwhelmed by the stresses of everyday child care.

Sound like someone needs to search for a nanny ASAP.

And whether you need “only” one nanny or au pair to meet your family needs or 11 (!), check out our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit and our cost-effective monthly membership plans, which offer unlimited candidate searches and screenings!

Camcorder Child Care: The perils of being a YouTube parent

Sunday, November 27th, 2011

Make no bones about it, nannying is parenting with all the same joys and pitfalls. When you are in the moment with children, they don’t focus on the fact that you are a paid employee and that you may eventually move on to another family or other career. They’re too busy focused on being kids.

I’m fascinated with the still evolving aftermath of this cute YouTube video posted by a British dad four years ago. Titled “Charlie bit my finger — again!”, the clip’s charm lies in the older brother Harry’s eloquent protests as his mischievous little brother Charlie plays the “baby card” and pretends as if biting is perfectly OK.

Harry is now 7 and Charlie is 5, placing them at ages 3 and 1 when this video was originally shot.  Brace yourself for these numbers:

  • The video has been watched 389.2 million times.
  • It has been “liked” 808,860 times.
  • There are now 626,683 comments from YouTube viewers.

Not surprisingly, those kind of numbers make advertisers salivate, which leads us to the most stunning statistic of all: The Dad, Howard Davies-Carr, is raking in more than $160,000 (100,000 British Pounds) a year in online ad revenues.

At his “Charlie Bit My Finger – Again” blog, Davies-Carr tries to keep his “aging” kids in the pop cultural spotlight by making more bite-themed videos recreating the moment. They have attracted a following, but naturally lack the same spontaneity as the original.

Jim White, a columnist for The Telegraph in London, laments that all the copycat parents out there will surely be missing out on some of the joys of family life due to the preoccupation of creating the next hit on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube etc.

“But what exactly is Davies-Carr – and those seeking to emulate his financial good fortune – missing in the anxiety to record his children’s quirks for rewarding posterity? We used to mock the way Japanese tourists were apparently welded to their cameras, not seeing anything first hand, their experience of the world restricted to playback.

I remember once seeing a Japanese fan catching sight of himself on the big screen at a football match and immediately pointing his camera upwards to film the moment. When he played it back, however, with a view perhaps to posting it on YouTube, he will have discovered an awkward truth: his face was obscured by his camera. It could have been anyone up there.”

Very few of us will hit the YouTube lottery like this British dad and there certainly is nothing wrong with sharing some of life’s fun moments with friends and family.  But something does get lost when we constantly watch our kids play and interact through our camcorder viewfinder or cell phone camera.

The Harry and Charlie show also brings up the issue of child discipline and how parents and the family nanny, babysitter or au pair need to be on the same page for how to respond to behavioral problems. Personally, I have found it effective to show my four-year-old daughter the Yo Gabba Gabba music video “Don’t Bite Your Friends!” for messaging reinforcement.

We’d love to hear from parents and nannies about their favorite methods of discouraging human cannibalism in the playroom!

As the leading alternative to hiring a costly nanny agency, the eNannySource Learning Center is an invaluable resource to explore every aspect of your nanny search. It is especially vital that your views and parenting style are reinforced while your nanny or au pair is in charge. (Check out “Discipline and Boundaries for your Nanny” as a starting point).

On a more lighthearted note, there’s no harm in laughing at life’s sillier moments. If you’re not one of the 389 million clicks, judge for yourself if Harry should be upset at Charlie:

Searching for a nanny like Mary Poppins?

Sunday, November 20th, 2011

Disney's Broadway tribute to "Mary Poppins" is fantastic PR for the nanny and au pair profession.

No matter how many applicants you screen with our Safe Nanny Hiring Kit — included with all levels of membership — chances are that you will not be hiring a magical nanny with a flying umbrella.

Not to say that a real-life Mary Poppins couldn’t exist, it’s just that in our experiences matching 450,000 nannies and families, we haven’t found one yet.

I’m much more familiar with Disney’s Academy Award-winning film with Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke, in which Mary dances with chimney sweeps and makes her children’s toys come alive. The 1964 classic was named the #6 Greatest Movie Musical of All Time by the American Film Institute in the same tier as “Singing in the Rain” and “The Wizard of Oz.”

However, the new Broadway incarnation is bringing the world’s first supernanny to whole new audiences. Disney’s Mary Poppins is playing to sellout audiences as star Steffanie Leigh, who prepared for the role by first working as a real Manhattan nanny, flies above the crowd on a wire!

How important is a nanny's personality in your hiring decision? In this scene from Disney's "Mary Poppins" on Broadway, authoritarian nanny Miss Andrew tries to force feed medicine.

Mary’s nemesis, Miss Andrew, provides the perfect personality contrast to showcase the extremes of child discipline. In a new interview with Broadway.com, actress Ruth Gottschall muses how her character especially riles up the kiddies in the audience:

“I don’t think of Miss Andrew as being mean. She may be strict, but in her mind she’s doing what she thinks is right, and knows exactly how things should be run in the Banks household. If the audience falls in love with you, that’s terrific, but if they hate you that’s even better. Sometimes I even get booed! If I had a dollar for every time a child starts to scream or cry when I’m onstage…

At last Saturday’s matinee I finished my song and a little boy behind our conductor screamed, “Geez, someone should stab her through the chest with a pitchfork!” It helps me think, “OK, I earned my paycheck this week!”

In the Mary Poppins story, the father (Mr. Banks) and his children (Jane and Michael) have philosophical differences about how to write the job description when hiring a new nanny. Banks wants a strict disciplinarian, while the kids naturally prefer a fun, whimsical woman. Poppins, of course, manages to be a blend of the two, teaching character values and life lessons while still being the most entertaining lady on earth.

When it comes to searching for a nanny to meet your family’s unique needs, you’ll probably be grappling with similar questions. Yes, nanny background checks are extremely important. But that is only one piece of the puzzle. Finding the right personality cannot be rushed, unfortunately.

The good news is that you’re not alone. Our Nanny Success Kit has proven itself thousands of times over, taking you through each step of the search and hiring process. Determine what personality traits and qualifications are most important to you as a parent — and don’t settle for anything less.

Here are some essential Nanny Interview Questions to get you started.

Have you already found your Mary Poppins?  Tell us how you found your favorite nanny — and the impact she is having on your family life. Please drop us a line at eNannyTips@gmail.com and you might be featured in a future blog!

Part Two How to avoid hiring the wrong nanny

Saturday, August 13th, 2011

This nanny blog post is a continuation of the prior blog post with the same name. For those that didn’t read part one, it was based on a recent incident of a nanny caught on a nanny cam dropping, kicking and hitting a baby.  Fortunately the child wasn’t physically harmed, but you can imagine the emotional trauma to this baby.

In my prior post I mentioned that a well-respected full service nanny agency is your best defense against this type of horrible incident since they truly are professionals and have many built in safeguards to assure this won’t happen.

Since a high percentage of families won’t use a full-service nanny agency because of the cost and perceived idea that they don’t add value to their hiring, what can a family do to protect themselves? First of all, don’t take yourself off the hook by saying you did a nanny background check.  I sincerely believe the nanny involved in the incident in NJ didn’t have a criminal record. Very, very few nannies do. By all means do a nanny background check just to be sure and not sorry, but don’t rely on that for your screening.

Remember, first of all nannies found on Craigslist, online nanny sites are not vetted in any way, in spite of what some of these sites may lead you to believe.  We’re all DIY sites, so be prepared to do your homework!

What is the homework?
Use a real nanny application not just the information provided by the online site.  Look for inconsistencies such as when one job began and the other ended and the reason for the job ending.  Be on the lookout, many job hunters use their friends and relatives as references, but don’t say they’re related.  Use a nanny reference check form so that you ask the right questions. Listen to your instincts, does the person feel like a salesperson to you?  If, so it may be a phony reference.

Demand that the nanny explain gaps in employment and give you prior addresses where she lived and then compare them with the SSN address report from the background check.  Get a copy of her ID, driver’s license, SS card and immigration documents if they are not native born.

I’ve saved the most important part for last.  Interview her first in a neutral place and then if you like her have her come to your home.  Be sure if both spouses live together that both are at the interview, if not have a friend sit in on the interview.

Once she’s passed all these tests, have her come back to your house and spend some time with your children to see how they respond to her.  If you’re still comfortable with her at this point, I bet you’ve made a good decision, since you were thorough and NOT RUSHED.

Just to be on the safe side use a nanny cam and drop in on her once or twice a day at different times just to see how things are going.

How to avoid hiring the wrong nanny

Sunday, August 7th, 2011

Recently a nanny was caught hitting and kicking a baby. It’s hard to understand how someone could do something like that to a child. Thank goodness the family had a nanny cam and caught it and fired her immediately.

I’m sure that many parents are thinking after reading about this incident, “Here we go again, another nanny hurting an innocent child. We can’t trust a nanny with our children.”  This event is alarming and disturbing to all of us and probably more so to those of us in the online nanny business.

Rather than going into a defense of online nanny services, I want to talk about what could be done to possibly prevent this from happening. I’m not going to address the particular circumstances of this sad event since I don’t know enough about the details to make a comment, and I certainly don’t want to say anything that could imply parents are at fault when something like this occurs, they most definitely were not.

I believe that hiring and vetting a nanny is complex, difficult tasks that whose difficulty is underestimated by many families who believe they can go by their “gut” when hiring a nanny. Of course our gut is the primary line of defense for all of us adults when making important decisions, but gut is built on experience which few families have in this arena. Are we all experts in human nature and do we all have great interviewing skills when hiring a potential caregiver to our child? Do things like time pressure to hire quickly so that mom and dad can get to work and money not impact our judgment? Of course they do. Have you have heard about Malcolm Gladwell’s rule of 10,000 hours to be an expert in an area?

It may sound strange coming from the owner of an online nanny service to say this, but the best line of defense for families hiring a nanny is using a full-service nanny agency. They have the skills and discipline to get it right. Nanny agencies have tough standards on experience and references that eliminate most candidates so families aren’t exposed to them. They know how to find phony references and they interview thousands of nannies-and as we know with experience comes expertise.

In the next installment I’ll discuss tools that families can use when hiring on their own without an agency.

Should I tattle on a nanny?

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

I recently came across a post on Google News called “Should I tattle on a nanny?”  The story was about a woman who ran into a friend’s daughter in Starbucks and went over to talk to the girl while the nanny texted. The nanny never even looked up to see who her charge was talking to.

I found this interesting since it wasn’t black or white, but in a gray zone, at least for the writer of the article. It didn’t involve child neglect or anything like that, just a total indifference to the nanny’s charge.

What I found interesting about this blog post was that the writer was so conflicted about telling the girl’s mom. She even went so far as to say that she was upset about seeing this and has thought about it over and over. She seems to be concerned that her friend might not take the news well.

Personally if someone found my child in the same circumstances I’d want to know right away so that I could evaluate what to do. Was this nanny too engrossed in a text conversation and this only happened once, or was this a regular occurrence? In what other ways isn’t she attentive to my child? I bet the mom already has some doubts about this nanny and her friend telling her about this might cause her to take additional action. I see it as an obligation to a friend.

How do you see it?