Posts Tagged ‘nannies’

The Ultimate Compliment: Actress Tori Spelling named her daughter after her childhood nanny

Wednesday, September 5th, 2012

Tori Spelling’s third child is named Hattie Margaret. The baby’s middle name is in memory of Spelling’s childhood nanny. (Image Source: ToriSpelling.com)

Nannying is one of a handful of privileged professions in which the intangible benefits can echo years beyond the actual job.

Working as a nanny comes with innate bonding experiences that can make you feel part of the family. Of course, not all hires turn out that way, but many do.

Take for example, former Nanny of the Year recipient Becky Kavanagh, who spent 20 years with the same Minnesota family playing an instrumental role in the development of their three children. As a kindergartner, one of the kids cutely declared, “Did you know that not everyone has a Becky? Some kids have to go to daycare!”

It’s heartwarming to see grown children still feel a deep connection to their childhood nannies.

One of those cases is actress Tori Spelling, who recently reminded her fans on her EdiTORIal blog how much her childhood nanny, Margaret, meant to her.

Margaret is the middle name of her 10-month-old girl Hattie, a baby who’s received considerable press coverage just for uttering her first word.

Tori tells her fans that the name “Hattie” was picked from a Google search for girls’ names, but that Margaret was “my nanny who was like a second mother to me.”  The actress notoriously has a strained relationship with her own mother, but the baby naming honor wasn’t meant as any kind of slam. Tori has been a huge advocate for nannies in her own life.

Tori Spelling has long been an outspoken advocate for the benefits of hiring a nanny. In this high-profile 2009 interview with Cookie Magazine, she bristles at the idea of mothers being jealous when nannies bond with their children.

“I never understood being competitive with a nanny,” she told Cookie magazine in 2009, sharing her experiences with her nanny Patsy. “If you have someone you trust and who loves your kids, then what an amazing thing you’ve done for them.”

Right on, Tori!

Nannies are not replacements for either parent. Rather, they are a critical part of the parenting team. Hiring a nanny should involve finding someone who reflects parents’ child rearing views and who shares their values (Check out eNannySource’s screening questions here).

As for Tori’s nanny, it looks like there will some job security for the immediate future.  The actress and husband Dean McDermott are expecting their fourth child (gender TBA) soon.

Traveling nannies support the U.S. Women’s Olympic Soccer Team

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

One day will there be an Olympic Gold for Nannying?

The U.S. Olympic Women’s Soccer team, which just won its first match against France in its bid to win the gold medal at the 2012 Summer Games in London, has a secret weapon: Nannies.

The Los Angeles Times recently revealed that U.S. Soccer, America’s governing organization for the sport, fully finances nanny services so players can bring their children on the road. The Times notes that several star players and key coaching personnel may have ended their careers earlier if there had not been family-friendly accommodations.

The policy is not a public relations gesture — it’s been going on for the past 16 years.

“U.S. Soccer considers this an important element to help those players with children to continue to contribute,” national team spokesman Neil Buethe tells the Times. “It allows the players to concentrate on their job of playing soccer without having to be away from their kids for a long period of time or worry about how they’re going to be able to balance their family and career while being on the road during training camp.”

Similar programs have been adopted by the golfers on the LPGA Tour and by the 2008 U.S. Women’s Olympic Softball Team, who competed in Beijing.  Despite the success of the program, unfortunately no other U.S. Olympic teams have official nannies on the payroll.

The 2012 U.S. Women’s Olympic Soccer Team is favored to contend for the gold medal this summer.

Soccer star Abby Wambach, who is the team’s second highest scorer, considers herself the squad’s “best babysitter,” as she often will volunteer to give the nannies a break.

“You spend so much time away from home, there’s only so many TV shows you can watch. There’s only so many conversations you can have. The added component of having kids around, it just is entertainment. It’s just such a great dynamic to bring into a team environment that can sometimes get monotonous,” she says.

Along with Brazil, the U.S. soccer team is heavily favored to be in the mix for the gold medal this year. As a fascinating aside, this is the first Olympic Games in which the amount of women athletes on the American team outnumbers men. The U.S. team is comprised of 269 women and 261 men competing in 25 different sports.

It’s refreshing to see a potential world champion team publicly praise its nannies for giving its players the peace of mind that their children are thriving even under the most intense training schedules.

Of course, you don’t need to be a world class athlete — or an athlete at all — to realize the family benefits of hiring a traveling nanny. For advice on finding the perfect nanny candidates to meet the demands of YOUR schedule, visit eNannySource’s free Learning Center!

Immigrants or not, are some nannies treated like cardboard?

Friday, June 15th, 2012

Artist Ramiro Gomez wants to raise awareness of "invisible" domestic workers in his city through handpainted cardboard cutouts. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

The Los Angeles Times recently showcased an enlightening project by a struggling artist and male nanny who is making public art to draw attention to the value of domestic work.

Ramiro Gomez Jr. creates vibrant 5-foot-tall cardboard cutouts of nannies, gardeners, housekeepers, valets and other service workers out of large television boxes he finds behind his local Best Buy.  The free-standing figures are placed in the swankiest, richest neighborhoods in Beverly Hills, Hollywood Hills and other highly desirable real estate markets.

“We see the beautiful homes. The hedges are trimmed, the gardens are perfect, the children are cared for,” Gomez tells the Times. “We’ve come to expect it to be this way. But who maintains all this? Who looks after it? And do we treat the workers with the dignity they deserve? Do we stop and notice them?”

The artist regularly photographs his cardboard creations in action poses at his Happy Hills blog.

Tough To Ignore: Artist Ramiro Gomez is calling for Los Angeles nannies and other domestic help to be treated with dignity. (Source: Los Angeles Times)

It can be heartbreaking for Gomez to watch what happens to his paintings. There are no velvet ropes like at a museum. It’s not uncommon for his sculptures to get trampled, thrown in a nearby trash bin or destroyed by animals or weather. The U.S. Secret Service recently ordered him to remove some gardener figures from the street when President Obama was in the city for a fundraiser.

The cardboard cutouts, which have attracted the attention of local art galleries and curators at UCLA, are obviously silent.

And what they’re not talking about is the open secret that paying undocumented workers (or nannies of any background) under the table is not just a tax evasion problem. It’s a formula for potential mistreatment and neglect.

Nannying is a profession, a career. Not some kind of odd job or series of chores you can find someone to do on Craigslist.

Having a written Nanny/Employer Work Agreement firmly establishes the job responsibilities, expectations and fair compensation/benefits for both sides.  While it must be tempting to avoid the paperwork and take home more money in cash, being paid legally makes sense in the long term.

Having proof of employment is essential for establishing credit and securing loans for cars, homes and more. If you want to be able to utilize Social Security, Medicare, and even in some cases unemployment or disability insurance, you must be paid on the books.

The eNannySource Learning Center provides valuable guidance for both hiring families and those seeking employment about how to verify a nanny candidate’s legal status, industry guidelines for salary and benefits, and how to make sure the nanny tax is appropriately handled.

Hiring employees the proper way is not just about the money, it’s about respect as well. No one, regardless of where they are from, deserves to be treated like a piece of cardboard.

Dangerous Veggies and Other Risky Toys to Keep on Your Nanny Radar

Monday, January 16th, 2012

"Play With Your Veggies" toys are amongst the recalled playthings listed at the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission.

Killer asparagus?  As if we didn’t have enough things to worry about!

The above felt and wool asparagus, from Land of Nod toys, was recently recalled because of a tendency of the inner wire to poke through the veggie skin and pose a choking and laceration hazard.

Warnings like these are quite commonplace in magazines, newspapers, Websites and the airwaves in between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, representing the bulk of the holiday shopping season.  But the information is just as relevant — or perhaps even more so right now — as we let our guard down as our kids settle into their new toys and develop new routines.

Nothing is more tragic than hearing that an item meant to spread joy has become an inadvertent weapon to harm children — as was the case with this toy workbench from Little Tykes:

Little Tyke tools were just recalled because some of nails posed choking hazards.

More than 3.3 million Little Tykes workbenches and trucks that were made between 1990 and 2004 contain these nails, which officials warn can get lodged in a toddler’s throat. I personally just found one of these workbenches in my basement, where it sits because my four-year-old daughter has lost interest. But nonetheless, it’s time for the dump.

When you take on the responsibility of a nanny, you are the substitute eyes and ears of the parents. Quite frankly, any item can pose a choking hazard if a child is brazen enough. We can’t recall everything they might potentially put in their mouths (though play food is a very logical thing for a kid to munch on).

If you’re searching for a nanny, finding one who’ll treat your children as if they are her own is no easy task. Our Safe Nanny Success Kit is a great place to start, offering advice on how to meticulously approach the process using the same proven screening methods as a professional nanny agency.

Regardless if you are a parent or a nanny, it’s a great idea to get on a few year-round mailing lists to stay up to date on which toys are bad news. One of my most frequent check-ins is with World Against Toys Causing Harm, or WATCH, which issues toy safety report cards and for the past 39 years, an annual “10 Worst Toys” list.

I encourage you to digest the 2011 nominees and see if any match up with what’s in your family playrooms.

Jack Sparrow's sword has the potential for choking and/or causing eye injuries.

Prominent on the WATCH list is a Pirates of the Caribbean action figure which has a stiff plastic sword rivaling those red plastic cocktail toothpicks you can sometimes get at theme restaurants.  I used to play with those toothpick swords as a kid and still have two intact eyes, so as always, it comes down to knowing your children and how responsible they are around various potential hazards.

While you’re beefing up your toy safety knowledge, also put yourself on the email list for the U.S. Public Interest Research Group (U.S. PIRG), which issues a yearly “Trouble in Toyland” report.  Most problematic in this year’s findings are revelations that numerous toys still contain high levels of phthalates, plastic chemicals believed to be linked to childhood development delays. And astoundingly, after years of crusading about the dangers of lead poisoning, there are still a few toys tainted with lead.

Lastly, there’s the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), which maintains perhaps the most comprehensive toy recall list available. The sheer number of toys which pose a potential health hazard will STUN you.

Which makes your job as a nanny all the more important. Taking an alertness break is never an option!

Is the California Domestic Workers Bill of Rights Good for Nannies and Families or an Example of the Nanny State?

Thursday, September 1st, 2011

In California there’s been quite a bit of talk and some hysteria over a proposed bill, The Domestic Workers Bill of Rights or California 889.   The bill essentially requires domestic workers to be paid minimum wage and time and one-half based on the same rules as other workers.  It also requires employers to give their employee a paycheck stub that reports hours worked, pay, and deductions.

The provision that’s causing some hysteria and panic amongst families is the provision that requires the employer to give the nanny a 10 minute break every 4 hours and a 30 minute break every 5 hours.  People are saying they’ll have to hire two nannies to cover the time off.  Does that really make sense?  Don’t nannies get breaks now when the child is napping or watching TV?  How is this different from a mom talking on the phone and keeping an eye on her child at the same time?  Or, mom grabbing lunch while keeping an eye on their child.  Surely, the law doesn’t intend a break where the nanny leaves the child alone.  Personally, I think this reaction has to do more with people claiming “nanny state” than reality.

The part of the bill that will cause some pain will impact mainly seniors that have caregivers and senior care agencies.  This is because of the rules requiring live-in caregivers to have 8 hours off to sleep in a 24 hour shift and rules regarding pay.  This could be painful to seniors since it could drive up the cost of caregivers.

From what I’ve heard a similar-sounding law in NY state has had little impact on how nanny employers and employees work. For those interested here’s a link to an interview our nanny Claudia and I gave to NBC Los Angeles.

Part Two How to avoid hiring the wrong nanny

Saturday, August 13th, 2011

This nanny blog post is a continuation of the prior blog post with the same name. For those that didn’t read part one, it was based on a recent incident of a nanny caught on a nanny cam dropping, kicking and hitting a baby.  Fortunately the child wasn’t physically harmed, but you can imagine the emotional trauma to this baby.

In my prior post I mentioned that a well-respected full service nanny agency is your best defense against this type of horrible incident since they truly are professionals and have many built in safeguards to assure this won’t happen.

Since a high percentage of families won’t use a full-service nanny agency because of the cost and perceived idea that they don’t add value to their hiring, what can a family do to protect themselves? First of all, don’t take yourself off the hook by saying you did a nanny background check.  I sincerely believe the nanny involved in the incident in NJ didn’t have a criminal record. Very, very few nannies do. By all means do a nanny background check just to be sure and not sorry, but don’t rely on that for your screening.

Remember, first of all nannies found on Craigslist, online nanny sites are not vetted in any way, in spite of what some of these sites may lead you to believe.  We’re all DIY sites, so be prepared to do your homework!

What is the homework?
Use a real nanny application not just the information provided by the online site.  Look for inconsistencies such as when one job began and the other ended and the reason for the job ending.  Be on the lookout, many job hunters use their friends and relatives as references, but don’t say they’re related.  Use a nanny reference check form so that you ask the right questions. Listen to your instincts, does the person feel like a salesperson to you?  If, so it may be a phony reference.

Demand that the nanny explain gaps in employment and give you prior addresses where she lived and then compare them with the SSN address report from the background check.  Get a copy of her ID, driver’s license, SS card and immigration documents if they are not native born.

I’ve saved the most important part for last.  Interview her first in a neutral place and then if you like her have her come to your home.  Be sure if both spouses live together that both are at the interview, if not have a friend sit in on the interview.

Once she’s passed all these tests, have her come back to your house and spend some time with your children to see how they respond to her.  If you’re still comfortable with her at this point, I bet you’ve made a good decision, since you were thorough and NOT RUSHED.

Just to be on the safe side use a nanny cam and drop in on her once or twice a day at different times just to see how things are going.

Communicating with your nanny

Monday, June 13th, 2011

After over 17 years in the nanny business and 13+ years as a nanny employer I’ve come to believe that communication is the most important element in a successful nanny/family relationship. The nanny I hire has been with me started when my son was born.

Over the years we have grown to trust each other completely and that trust was built on communication. Claudia is a very smart, hard-working person who loves my son. I treat her in every way as an equal (she’s my superior in some ways!) and greatly respect her. I never treat her as an “employee”, but rather as a partner.

Because of the high regard I hold her in my son respects her and values her in the same way that I do. I believe that it reflects on me as a parent by the people I have in our lives. Danny picks up good values that he can use throughout his life from his and my relationship with Claudia.

I don’t know how many times I’ve been in social situations and the parents complain to me about the quality of the person that works for them. Often times insulting their intelligence, motivation and more. What message are they sending to their kids?

eNannySource announces the winners of their nanny and family contest

Thursday, June 2nd, 2011

eNannySource recently ran a contest to find the best story of hiring a nanny from us and another contest to find the best story from a nanny about her job search. The nanny and family each won a Flip Video camera.

Jessica Rose Stine of Aledo, TX won the family contest with her touching story of her hiring of Nora from our site. She knew Nora was the right nanny for the job from the moment Nora held her baby in her arms and immediately fell asleep. Instant bliss!

Our nanny winner is Kailie Ware of Edmunds, WA. Kailie complimented us greatly by telling us about how easy to use we are and the number of families she had to choose from. Thanks, Kailie!

Congratulations to both winners and thanks to all the nannies and families that sent in their stories and photos. It was tough choosing the winners!

How to find a Professional Nanny

Monday, April 25th, 2011

Professional nannies can be a little hard to identify on an online nanny service since there are all levels of nannies available. So how does one go about locating a professional nanny on eNannySource.com? Our suggestions are to use the search criteria to narrow down the number of candidates by looking at the number of years experience. We feel that two to three or more years paid experience as a nanny is a good place to begin.

Other criteria that can help you identify professional nannies are whether they have CPR and a driving license. The number of families worked for isn’t a good criterion to look at because a nanny could have 10 years experience and only work for one family or two years experience and work for five families.

Once you’ve narrowed down the number of nanny candidates add them to your My Top Picks list and begin contacting them. A professional nanny will always get back to you promptly!

Hiring and screening nannies for newborns and infants

Wednesday, February 16th, 2011

Every parent has great concern and anxiety over screening nannies for their newborn or infant. Having owned a brick and mortar nanny agency for many years I was able to see the qualities that help parents feel comfortable making this big decision.

It’s particularly important to follow safe nanny hiring steps for this age group. This can be time consuming, so for some families where money isn’t the main issue using a nanny referral service can be well worth the extra money. Good nanny agencies are experts at nanny screening and understand very well the parent’s anxiety and can help make you feel more comfortable.

For those that want to use an online nanny referral service here are the steps that have been used for years and work very well.

  1. Only interview candidates with prior experience with infants and newborns.
  2. Do a careful phone interview first. Have the nanny’s complete resume or nanny job application (available in our Hiring Pro Toolkit) on hand prior to the interview, if possible.
  3. In the phone interview use a good interview form (available in our Hiring Pro Toolkit) and take notes.
  4. Look at her resume/application (available in our Hiring Pro Toolkit) for prior jobs with this age group and ask her questions about why she liked working with those children. Listen for genuine enthusiasm and care for her charges. Can you feel her warmth?
  5. If the phone interview is satisfactory set up an in-person interview. My preference is with the child present so that you can see her reaction to your baby and the baby’s reaction to her.
  6. Ask her numerous questions about those nanny jobs with very young children.
  7. Check references using a reference check form  (available in our Hiring Pro Toolkit).
  8. Reference checking is the “secret weapon” in the nanny hiring process. It’s usually mom-to-mom and very personal. That mom will empathize with you and try to help you with information about the nanny.
  9. Did the reference checking confirm your feelings about the nanny or did the references raise issues?
  10. It sounds trite, but trust your instincts.
  11. If it’s all positive and you want to hire her do a nanny background check for your peace of mind.
  12. Use a family and nanny hiring agreement to put in writing all the points. Our Hiring Pro Toolkit has a free International Nanny Association agreement included.